Perhaps no culture in history has spoken about love more yet understood love less than our culture today. Of course, we have a tool today in the radio that allows us to lump all of our thoughts about love together and try to sort out the mess the results. For example, Burt Bacharach sings about love as kind of a “cure-all:”
What the world needs now is love, sweet love
It's the only thing that there's just too little of
What the world needs now is love, sweet love,
No not just for some but for everyone.
But Carrie Underwood might have a thing or two to say to Burt, because she sings:
I bet all I had on a thing called love
I guess in the end it wasn't enough
And it's hard to watch you leave right now
I'm gonna have to learn to let you go somehow
Meanwhile, Tina Turner wants to convince us that love is nothing more than a physical sensation:
It's physical
Only logical
You must try to ignore
That it means more than that
[Chorus:]
What's love got to do, got to do with it
What's love but a second hand emotion
What's love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?
But Tim McGraw wants to tell us that love is something that can be life-changing:
Better than I was
More than I am
And all of this happened
By takin' your hand
And who I am now
Is who I wanted to be
And now that we're together
I'm stronger than ever
I'm happy and free
Its your love
It just does somethin’ to me
It sends a shot right through me
I can’t get enough
And if you wonder
About the spell I’m under
Its your love
Bob Dylan describes love as something that sacrifices for another person:
I could make you happy, make your dreams come true
There's nothing that I would not do
Go to the ends of the Earth for you
To make you feel my love.
But Katy Perry just wants to use your love without getting too concerned about you:
I just wanna use your love
Tonight, tonight, tonight, tonight, tonight
I don't wanna lose your love tonight
(You don't mean nothing at all to me)
(You don't mean nothing at all to me)
Perhaps we need to tell Katy what Willie Nelson once decided:
If this is what you refer to as love
Then I'd rather you didn't love me
Now, some of those musicians were singing about different kinds of love, and therein lies part of our problem—we can use the word love in so many different ways. One English dictionary lists 28 different ways that we can use the word “love.” I can love God, love my wife, love basketball, love bacon, and have a score of love in a game of tennis—all at the same time!
That might explain some of the confusion we have when Jesus commands us to “love our enemies.” We better find out in a hurry just what it means to love, and fortunately, the Lord will help us do just that. Follow along with me as I read Matthew 5:43-48 [READ Matt 5:43-48].
The Problem: Granting a License for Hatred
The Pharisees teaching, according to Jesus in v. 43, was, “You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.” There’s no reason to look for a verse in the Old Testament that says that, because there isn’t one. You will find a command to love your neighbor in Leviticus 19:18, but you won’t find a command to hate your enemy anywhere.
In fact, in the laws given to Moses, we find just the opposite. Exodus 23:4-5 says, “If you meet your enemy's ox or his donkey going astray, you shall bring it back to him. If you see the donkey of one who hates you lying down under its burden, you shall refrain from leaving him with it; you shall rescue it with him.” And Leviticus 19:17 says, “You shall not hate your brother in your heart, but you shall reason frankly with your neighbor, lest you incur sin because of him.” Then, in the book of Proverbs, we find this statement that is repeated in the New Testament: “If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you (25:21-22).”
So how did it ever come about that the religious leaders were teaching the people, “You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy?” They may have been attempting to capture what the Old Testament says about God’s anger toward those who reject Him. Perhaps they thought, “Well, if its okay for God to be angry toward His enemies, then it must be okay for us, too.”
Let me give you a very brief snippet of what the Old Testament says about God’s anger toward those who reject Him. In Malachi 1:2-3, for example, God Himself says, “I have loved Jacob but Esau I have hated.” God spoke through Malachi centuries after Jacob and Esau actually lived, so He’s talking about the nations that descended from those two men—the nation of Israel on the one hand (Jacob) and the nation of Edom on the others (Esau). The Edomites, throughout their history, had rejected God and even attacked the Israelites at times. God clearly states here that He hates them for their actions.
Also, in Deuteronomy 7:9-10, Moses gives this description of God: “Know therefore that the LORD your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments, to a thousand generations, and repays to their face those who hate him, by destroying them. He will not be slack with one who hates him. He will repay him to his face.” Now the Pharisees may have read statements like this and concluded, “If we love those who love us and hate those who hate us, it sounds like we’re no different than God!” But I believe the Pharisees forgot at least two important details about God’s love.
1. God takes no delight in the demise of the wicked
Make no mistake—God is the final, appropriate judge of mankind, and He will ensure that justice is carried out. But like any good judge, He does not delight in the downfall of those upon whom He must pass sentence. Ezekiel 33:11 states, “As I live, declares the Lord God, I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but that the wicked turn from his way and live.” Though God will surely deliver punishment when it is just, He always does so with a broken heart.
2. God consistently does good for ALL people—even His enemies!
That is what Jesus points out in Matthew 5—He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. Notice how Jesus calls the sun “His sun.” It’s God’s sun! He can do what He wants with it. Remember, there was a time during the plagues on Egypt when God caused the Egyptians to sit in darkness while the Israelites enjoyed light. He could cause the sun to shine precisely where He chooses, but He gives it to all men equally. If God carries out punishment upon a man, it is only after He has provided food for that man every day of his life; it is only after He has protected that man every day from an earlier demise; it is only after He has kept his heart pumping and his lungs breathing and his brain working. The moment of punishment is actually an exception in an otherwise constant pattern of mercy and grace.
The Solution: Love Your Enemies, Too, and Pray for Them
The failure to do good for our enemies is the reason that we so often fail to imitate God’s love, and it is the reason why the Pharisees’ teaching was broken. Their understanding was that they had no obligation to do good to their enemies, so the Lord tells us instead in v. 44, “But I say to you, ‘Love your enemies.’” This command really challenges the common notion of love that we hold today. I’d like to point out two extremes that we need to avoid when thinking about love that will help us understand what Jesus is asking us to do.
1. Love is merely an emotion
This is the extreme to which we are most vulnerable today, because from every conceivable angle we are told to “follow your heart,” or “be true to your heart.” And so, when most people say, “I love you,” if you dig down underneath that statement, what they’re really saying is, “I have pleasant feelings when I’m around you.”
Now if we equate love with pleasant feelings, then this command from Jesus is utterly ridiculous. We don’t have pleasant feelings about our enemies, nor can we simply conjure them up at will. But as we see in the rest of this passage, Jesus doesn’t define love in terms of emotions but in terms of actions. God loves the evil and the unjust by doing good for them. So we can see that Jesus is simply expanding upon the idea of the previous paragraph—choose to do good to others even when they do evil to you.
But once we’ve grasped the idea that love is not merely an emotion, then we must be careful to avoid a second extreme…
2. Love for our enemies does not involve our emotions
It would be easy to justify hatred in our hearts if we defined love solely in terms of our actions. For example, let’s say that my enemy is hungry. I would not be fulfilling this command if I drove past him, threw some bread at his face and said, “Here, have some bread you filthy animal! By the way, can’t you see how much I love you?”
If we are to learn anything from Matthew 5, its that God wants our actions and our attitudes to be aligned; He wants our hands and our hearts to be on the same page. So God does want us to do good to our enemies, but He wants those good actions to flow out of a heart of compassion, pity, and mercy.
We won’t have the same feelings about our enemies as we have about our friends, but that’s not what God is calling for. I think we can truthfully say that God Himself does not have the same feelings about His enemies as He does about His children, but what He does have is a commitment to do good to all that flows from a heart of goodwill. That could be a good “shorthand” definition of love—a commitment to do good to all that flows from a heart of goodwill.
Jesus then mentions a very specific way in which we can love our enemies when He says, “pray for those who persecute you.” There is a beautiful word picture in this statement that kind of gets lost in translation. The Greek preposition that is translated “for” in this phrase is the same preposition that is used elsewhere to describe Jesus dying “for” us, and of course the idea is that Jesus died in our place, as our substitute. Jesus stepped in for us and did something that we could not do—namely, offer a perfect sacrifice for our sins. So the word picture here is that we are to step in for our enemies to do something that they cannot do—namely, pray to God.
Its as though we’re coming before God saying, “Lord, I know my enemy is shut out from your presence because He has rejected you, so I am here in His place to pray on his behalf and ask that you would show mercy to him and do good to him.” What a humbling picture, one that crushes the pride and the hatred in our hearts to allow the heart of Jesus to be formed within us.
Jesus then calls us to do these things with reference to God, first of all telling us that this is how we can show our family resemblance with our Heavenly Father. He issues these commands in v. 44, then says in v. 45, “so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven.” This is the way that the family resemblance will be carved within us—not by loving only those who love us, or greeting only those who greet us, because that’s just normal human behavior. Anyone can do that, so if we want to truly act like a chip off the old block and be like our Father, we must love our enemies and pray for them.
Jesus finally sums up His discussion in v. 48 by saying, “You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” I think the word “perfect” is an unfortunate translation in this verse. This Greek word can also be translated “complete,” and I think that word gives us a better understanding of this verse because of the way that we use the words “perfect” and “complete” in modern English.
The word “therefore” tells us that Jesus is summing up or drawing a conclusion from everything He has just said, and in this section He has been challenging us to be complete people, to be whole, to have an integrity about our lives in which our attitudes and our actions are in sync. When our attitudes and our actions don’t line up, we’re like a jumbled mess of a person, like a Dr. Jeykll and Mr. Hyde. Our actions and attitudes are not integrated—they are not a unified whole.
But this is not so for God. His actions and His attitudes are in perfect harmony with one another, and so this is how the Lord calls us to be. And as we have been reminded today, God maintains this harmony between His actions and attitudes toward all people. This is another way in which we can be incomplete—if we display this integrity toward some people, but not all people. Our Lord’s challenge is for us to unite godly attitudes with godly actions, then act with that same integrity toward all people.
As we close today, I want you to close your eyes and think about someone who could fit into the category of being your enemy. Perhaps it is someone who mocks you for your faith, or someone who tries to take advantage of you; maybe its someone with whom you’ve had a fight in the past or someone with different political convictions than you. As you think about that person, I want you to ask God to forgive you for any times in which you have failed to do good to that person from a heart of goodwill. Be specific if you can. Also, ask God to forgive you if you have failed to pray for that person. Finally, let’s ask the Lord to help us rely on His strength to carry out these commands we’ve studied today.
What the world needs now is love, sweet love
It's the only thing that there's just too little of
What the world needs now is love, sweet love,
No not just for some but for everyone.
But Carrie Underwood might have a thing or two to say to Burt, because she sings:
I bet all I had on a thing called love
I guess in the end it wasn't enough
And it's hard to watch you leave right now
I'm gonna have to learn to let you go somehow
Meanwhile, Tina Turner wants to convince us that love is nothing more than a physical sensation:
It's physical
Only logical
You must try to ignore
That it means more than that
[Chorus:]
What's love got to do, got to do with it
What's love but a second hand emotion
What's love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?
But Tim McGraw wants to tell us that love is something that can be life-changing:
Better than I was
More than I am
And all of this happened
By takin' your hand
And who I am now
Is who I wanted to be
And now that we're together
I'm stronger than ever
I'm happy and free
Its your love
It just does somethin’ to me
It sends a shot right through me
I can’t get enough
And if you wonder
About the spell I’m under
Its your love
Bob Dylan describes love as something that sacrifices for another person:
I could make you happy, make your dreams come true
There's nothing that I would not do
Go to the ends of the Earth for you
To make you feel my love.
But Katy Perry just wants to use your love without getting too concerned about you:
I just wanna use your love
Tonight, tonight, tonight, tonight, tonight
I don't wanna lose your love tonight
(You don't mean nothing at all to me)
(You don't mean nothing at all to me)
Perhaps we need to tell Katy what Willie Nelson once decided:
If this is what you refer to as love
Then I'd rather you didn't love me
Now, some of those musicians were singing about different kinds of love, and therein lies part of our problem—we can use the word love in so many different ways. One English dictionary lists 28 different ways that we can use the word “love.” I can love God, love my wife, love basketball, love bacon, and have a score of love in a game of tennis—all at the same time!
That might explain some of the confusion we have when Jesus commands us to “love our enemies.” We better find out in a hurry just what it means to love, and fortunately, the Lord will help us do just that. Follow along with me as I read Matthew 5:43-48 [READ Matt 5:43-48].
The Problem: Granting a License for Hatred
The Pharisees teaching, according to Jesus in v. 43, was, “You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.” There’s no reason to look for a verse in the Old Testament that says that, because there isn’t one. You will find a command to love your neighbor in Leviticus 19:18, but you won’t find a command to hate your enemy anywhere.
In fact, in the laws given to Moses, we find just the opposite. Exodus 23:4-5 says, “If you meet your enemy's ox or his donkey going astray, you shall bring it back to him. If you see the donkey of one who hates you lying down under its burden, you shall refrain from leaving him with it; you shall rescue it with him.” And Leviticus 19:17 says, “You shall not hate your brother in your heart, but you shall reason frankly with your neighbor, lest you incur sin because of him.” Then, in the book of Proverbs, we find this statement that is repeated in the New Testament: “If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you (25:21-22).”
So how did it ever come about that the religious leaders were teaching the people, “You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy?” They may have been attempting to capture what the Old Testament says about God’s anger toward those who reject Him. Perhaps they thought, “Well, if its okay for God to be angry toward His enemies, then it must be okay for us, too.”
Let me give you a very brief snippet of what the Old Testament says about God’s anger toward those who reject Him. In Malachi 1:2-3, for example, God Himself says, “I have loved Jacob but Esau I have hated.” God spoke through Malachi centuries after Jacob and Esau actually lived, so He’s talking about the nations that descended from those two men—the nation of Israel on the one hand (Jacob) and the nation of Edom on the others (Esau). The Edomites, throughout their history, had rejected God and even attacked the Israelites at times. God clearly states here that He hates them for their actions.
Also, in Deuteronomy 7:9-10, Moses gives this description of God: “Know therefore that the LORD your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments, to a thousand generations, and repays to their face those who hate him, by destroying them. He will not be slack with one who hates him. He will repay him to his face.” Now the Pharisees may have read statements like this and concluded, “If we love those who love us and hate those who hate us, it sounds like we’re no different than God!” But I believe the Pharisees forgot at least two important details about God’s love.
1. God takes no delight in the demise of the wicked
Make no mistake—God is the final, appropriate judge of mankind, and He will ensure that justice is carried out. But like any good judge, He does not delight in the downfall of those upon whom He must pass sentence. Ezekiel 33:11 states, “As I live, declares the Lord God, I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but that the wicked turn from his way and live.” Though God will surely deliver punishment when it is just, He always does so with a broken heart.
2. God consistently does good for ALL people—even His enemies!
That is what Jesus points out in Matthew 5—He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. Notice how Jesus calls the sun “His sun.” It’s God’s sun! He can do what He wants with it. Remember, there was a time during the plagues on Egypt when God caused the Egyptians to sit in darkness while the Israelites enjoyed light. He could cause the sun to shine precisely where He chooses, but He gives it to all men equally. If God carries out punishment upon a man, it is only after He has provided food for that man every day of his life; it is only after He has protected that man every day from an earlier demise; it is only after He has kept his heart pumping and his lungs breathing and his brain working. The moment of punishment is actually an exception in an otherwise constant pattern of mercy and grace.
The Solution: Love Your Enemies, Too, and Pray for Them
The failure to do good for our enemies is the reason that we so often fail to imitate God’s love, and it is the reason why the Pharisees’ teaching was broken. Their understanding was that they had no obligation to do good to their enemies, so the Lord tells us instead in v. 44, “But I say to you, ‘Love your enemies.’” This command really challenges the common notion of love that we hold today. I’d like to point out two extremes that we need to avoid when thinking about love that will help us understand what Jesus is asking us to do.
1. Love is merely an emotion
This is the extreme to which we are most vulnerable today, because from every conceivable angle we are told to “follow your heart,” or “be true to your heart.” And so, when most people say, “I love you,” if you dig down underneath that statement, what they’re really saying is, “I have pleasant feelings when I’m around you.”
Now if we equate love with pleasant feelings, then this command from Jesus is utterly ridiculous. We don’t have pleasant feelings about our enemies, nor can we simply conjure them up at will. But as we see in the rest of this passage, Jesus doesn’t define love in terms of emotions but in terms of actions. God loves the evil and the unjust by doing good for them. So we can see that Jesus is simply expanding upon the idea of the previous paragraph—choose to do good to others even when they do evil to you.
But once we’ve grasped the idea that love is not merely an emotion, then we must be careful to avoid a second extreme…
2. Love for our enemies does not involve our emotions
It would be easy to justify hatred in our hearts if we defined love solely in terms of our actions. For example, let’s say that my enemy is hungry. I would not be fulfilling this command if I drove past him, threw some bread at his face and said, “Here, have some bread you filthy animal! By the way, can’t you see how much I love you?”
If we are to learn anything from Matthew 5, its that God wants our actions and our attitudes to be aligned; He wants our hands and our hearts to be on the same page. So God does want us to do good to our enemies, but He wants those good actions to flow out of a heart of compassion, pity, and mercy.
We won’t have the same feelings about our enemies as we have about our friends, but that’s not what God is calling for. I think we can truthfully say that God Himself does not have the same feelings about His enemies as He does about His children, but what He does have is a commitment to do good to all that flows from a heart of goodwill. That could be a good “shorthand” definition of love—a commitment to do good to all that flows from a heart of goodwill.
Jesus then mentions a very specific way in which we can love our enemies when He says, “pray for those who persecute you.” There is a beautiful word picture in this statement that kind of gets lost in translation. The Greek preposition that is translated “for” in this phrase is the same preposition that is used elsewhere to describe Jesus dying “for” us, and of course the idea is that Jesus died in our place, as our substitute. Jesus stepped in for us and did something that we could not do—namely, offer a perfect sacrifice for our sins. So the word picture here is that we are to step in for our enemies to do something that they cannot do—namely, pray to God.
Its as though we’re coming before God saying, “Lord, I know my enemy is shut out from your presence because He has rejected you, so I am here in His place to pray on his behalf and ask that you would show mercy to him and do good to him.” What a humbling picture, one that crushes the pride and the hatred in our hearts to allow the heart of Jesus to be formed within us.
Jesus then calls us to do these things with reference to God, first of all telling us that this is how we can show our family resemblance with our Heavenly Father. He issues these commands in v. 44, then says in v. 45, “so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven.” This is the way that the family resemblance will be carved within us—not by loving only those who love us, or greeting only those who greet us, because that’s just normal human behavior. Anyone can do that, so if we want to truly act like a chip off the old block and be like our Father, we must love our enemies and pray for them.
Jesus finally sums up His discussion in v. 48 by saying, “You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” I think the word “perfect” is an unfortunate translation in this verse. This Greek word can also be translated “complete,” and I think that word gives us a better understanding of this verse because of the way that we use the words “perfect” and “complete” in modern English.
The word “therefore” tells us that Jesus is summing up or drawing a conclusion from everything He has just said, and in this section He has been challenging us to be complete people, to be whole, to have an integrity about our lives in which our attitudes and our actions are in sync. When our attitudes and our actions don’t line up, we’re like a jumbled mess of a person, like a Dr. Jeykll and Mr. Hyde. Our actions and attitudes are not integrated—they are not a unified whole.
But this is not so for God. His actions and His attitudes are in perfect harmony with one another, and so this is how the Lord calls us to be. And as we have been reminded today, God maintains this harmony between His actions and attitudes toward all people. This is another way in which we can be incomplete—if we display this integrity toward some people, but not all people. Our Lord’s challenge is for us to unite godly attitudes with godly actions, then act with that same integrity toward all people.
As we close today, I want you to close your eyes and think about someone who could fit into the category of being your enemy. Perhaps it is someone who mocks you for your faith, or someone who tries to take advantage of you; maybe its someone with whom you’ve had a fight in the past or someone with different political convictions than you. As you think about that person, I want you to ask God to forgive you for any times in which you have failed to do good to that person from a heart of goodwill. Be specific if you can. Also, ask God to forgive you if you have failed to pray for that person. Finally, let’s ask the Lord to help us rely on His strength to carry out these commands we’ve studied today.
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